It’s been a while since I’ve written on here. To be exact, it’s been three years. Sometimes that happens when we fall into life and forget to keep up with essentials, like writing, blogging, being active in the things we are passionate about. We can’t always be fired up and passionate 24/7, it’s seemingly impossible. Sometimes we need to step away, take a break, and even discover somethings that are new that we end up enjoying even more than we ever thought we would. That’s life. What I have learned in the past three years are so many things. So many invaluable lessons as my life was happening in multiple directions and it was difficult to center in.

Lesson #1

When we lose ourselves, it’s important to remember what we love, what our passions are, and what our purpose is. When we fall into the abyss, we need to look up and find that sliver of light and hold on to the moments that we remember as being good. Don’t get into the trap that life is essentially meaningless because one day we won’t be here. Yes, there is a finality in life, but it doesn’t mean we shouldn’t make the most of what our lives are and what they could be. Set some small goals, try to meet them, and grow each day in the hopes you are better than the day before.

Lesson #2

Never give up hope. When all hope is lost, we are at our most vulnerable and often times our thoughts become dangerous trying to steer us away from good and right into the depth of bad. Have something to live for. What I like to have each day or week is something to look forward to. Whether that be seeing a friend for dinner, getting to soak in the bath for a while, buying a small gift for myself, or spending time with family. The little things are absolutely the big things. Small moments make the best memories. Never, ever, lose hope.

Lesson #3

Lean on people that you love and trust. When we are vulnerable, don’t be so quick to share your vulnerabilities with just anyone and even on social media platforms. Take the time to figure out who you can talk to fully and process your thoughts and emotions. Not everyone will have your best interest at heart, and often times they will share what you have discussed in confidence and twist what you have said. Be careful. But don’t close yourself off completely. Finding your person in life is equally as important as finding yourself.

Lesson #4

Existentialism is a very real concept. The older we get, the more we may question life and all of its intricacies. We might begin to find flaws and faults everywhere around us, including society and the constructs humanity has devised. It is exceptionally easy to dive in and get lost in the existential rabbit hole. However, don’t let yourself keep falling into it. Remember, we have this one life, and time is precious. Don’t forget to look forward to your life and future. Yes, the rat race is real and unfair. Yes, things like racism exist. Man made errors exist. Becoming stressed due to financial reasons is real. However, don’t let these weights push you down and decide it all doesn’t matter. Take some time to find out what matters to YOU. Who matters to you.

Lesson #5

Things happen. Accidents happen. Bad things happen. Good things happen also. But, in essence, we do not have control over the future and what it holds. The only thing we are in control of are ourselves and the moments we are in as we live them. But don’t let that scare you! This type of experience holds true for us all. There will be bad days but there will also be good days. Keep going for the good and process the bad and move forward.

If there’s anything I’ve learned is that I will continue to learn. That’s what life is all about. Life-long learning through living.

I guess it’s official, I’m back. Until next time.